Being a carer for someone with cancer can be confusing and overwhelming for both. As we are dealing with a lot of emotions that most times are not being spoken of.
We do not know how to react, what to say, but we want to be able to still show the love and be present for the person. You as the carer also will go through your emotional challenges.
It’s full of strong emotions, tough times you didn’t see coming, and beautiful moments of closeness.
You need to be strong, understanding, and main thing is being present.
If you’re a carer, here are some simple tips from one carer to another, to help you get through each day with lots of patience and love.
- Patience…oh yes! you need to have all the Patience under the sun…because these cancer warriors can be good today, and all fussy the next minute, can be demanding today and can be so loving next.
- Love. Real Love. Stand with them no matter what…no matter how difficult they can be…no matter if they broke…no matter if they actually feel like eating the wrong foods
- Silence honestly…if you are to say anything. Don’t say anything. Just your presence is good enough.
- be smart and open minded with lots of common sense because anxiety comes at any time and you need to learn to say the right words, stay quiet, or run for the nearest taxi
- Live…just live. Allow them to live and be happy for them.
- Pray for them all the time. Either with them or when they are not around. Pray.
- Listen to their stories and engage with them
- Willingness to do crazy things with them like have chips dipped in ice cream or dunk a shot of whisky or run through the forest. Whatever they feel like doing!
- take long car rides with no words, no stories, just music on…
- Enjoy every moments of a day ✨️😊❤️
